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African American, Afro-textured hair, Beauty, Curly Hair, Kinky Curly, Miss Jessie's, Natural Hair, Viola Davis
The picture you see is of just a portion of the products I own geared towards natural hair. I went natural in 2008, on a whim after a breakup with my ex-boyfriend. I was wearing a weave that at the time lended itself to my many jobs (actress, model, dancer). I couldn’t see myself without the long hair. It booked me modeling jobs; got me big tips when I bellydanced (most people in the Arabic culture found long hair more attractive), and when I used my seductive “hair-ography” to book a job as a dancer for the Victoria’s Secret fashion show, I felt super sexy, but passed on the job for a higher paying cosmetics commercial that wanted a black girl with…. yep long straight hair. So you, see my life as a straight hair black girl seemed great.
However, a part of me was using my hair to hide behind myself. I was having my second bout of cystic acne, and along with the pounds of makeup I wore, the long hair was an excellent distraction. Plus, I was 2 years into a relationship and was in denial about how unhappy I was. Amongst our many arguments, the one thing my ex kept telling me, was that I should rock an afro (He also said I should get fake boobs, but I didn’t buy into that one). My ex thought that an afro would make me stand out from the long hair luscious weaves that were status quo for every black female in the entertainment industry at the time. I dismissed his suggestion for a while, but a few weeks after our breakup, I wanted a change and I mustered up the courage to do it. As I let my mom cut out my extensions, I realized I had no idea what to do with my hair. Four years ago, going natural was not as much as a trend as it is now, and believe or not, not very many hairdressers, (much less hair dressers specializing in ethnic hair), knew what to do with my super kinky curls. I think I wore a straight 70′s afro for about 3 months before I was lucky enough to stumble upon some naturalistas who turned me on to products such as Curls, Kinky Curly and Miss Jessie’s. These products allowed me to explore the versatility of my texture.
Four years later. I’ve learned quite a bit about my hair. Just a few of my gems:
1) My hair WILL NOT withstand excessive chemical dying. Use natural color.
(Lesson learned from a yearlong dancing/modeling job I with a high profile hair company specializing in color. The final bleach, dye job, wreaked havoc on my hair for a almost 2 years)
2) My hair needs TONS of moisture. Every. Single. Day.
3) The less I manipulate/style my hair the more it grows.
4) My hair my likes coconut oil, but my face does not (major breakouts)
5) Detangling and pre-conditioning are non-negotiable
The great thing about natural hair is that everyone’s hair is so different and you have to take the time to explore what’s right for you. I’m still learning a lot about my hair and I’m currently in the process of testing and transitioning into using more natural products and oils for my hair. I’ll share in an upcoming post.
If you’re wondering how it has translated to my many careers. I have booked more jobs than I have in my entire career because I have natural hair. In fact many of the jobs I go out for commercially and for modeling specifically want a African-American female with curly or afro hair. It is being celebrated much more than I anticipated (and now I have way more competition!) It’s still not as much of a trend in television and film where straight hair still rules, but we’ve come a long way baby. I love my hair and even though I have a small army of wigs that I use for auditions, gigs, and sketch comedy shows to keep my chameleon-like ways (hey, Viola Davis does it too), my natural hair feels the most “me”, and that’s where I stand.
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I absolutely love your hair story/journey! I’ve been natural since 2012, but have cut it twice, since going natural. I’m learning what products work best for my hair, and developing a routine. I try to post products I’ve used to help others.
Yes! the product thing is most definitely trial and error!
Thrilled you decided to talk about natural hair on your WordPress blog, being a natural hair girl myself (since 2010) I can totally relate. I do know one thing going natural means having a love affair with your hair i have 2 nieces with natural hair and 2 nieces with “wracked up hair” (ghetto translation- weave +crack -those who are addicted to weave. but to each it’s own. Personally I love being natural and can’t see myself going back, but there’s one thing I can say about all of the sheep girls we can do more with our hair than anyone I’ve ever known.
Thanks and agreed: Our hair is so versatile!
I’ve been natural since 2006. I spent two years with kinky curls and the last four with locks. My daughter has had locks for a little over a year now too. It’s such a beautiful journey. Thank you for sharing. It was a very enjoyable post.
Thanks for the comment! A beautiful journey it is:)
I really had some of the same thoughts as you when I went natural 17 years ago. I was concerned about how my professional colleagues, friends and sorors would perceive my natural hair. I did endure some inappropriate and unappreciated comments, looks and suggestions about hair stylists who could relax my hair without damage (as most assumed that I went natural because some amateur stylist had traumatized me). Soon, I realized that I was much more in love with my natural hair than I was with any of the folks who did not love it. Since then, I have been seen as a trailblazer of sorts. I have been natural so long that folks now come to be for suggestions on care and maintenance, transitioning and styling. Even some of those who make those comments!
Thanks for the comment Taviaz. 17 year ago! Wow! I can’t imagine what you probably went thru (especially when it came to products).You are indeed a trailblazer:)
Thank you but it sure has been good having more and more women going natural! It is good to love ourselves and our beauty!
This is amazing! You look amazing! I’m so jealous ;P
Love your hair like that! One of my students wore her hair straight for the first half of the school year, and then one day she came in with her hair naturally curly and in more of an afro style. It was absolutely adorable.
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I loved reading about your journey